"Girl, Whats Wrong With You?!"

"Girl, what's wrong with you?!".....Sound familiar?...if it does, keep reading.....
I can remember hearing this over and over, growing up, and well into adulthood, and the sad part is, I didn't know. Part of the time, I was unaware that anything was wrong, and the other part, I just didn't care. There was so much that had happened early on in my life, that warped my way of thinking,, that I had disconnected from normal, and hadn't realized it.
See, for many of us, dysfunction, is a norm, and much to our dismay, there's nothing we can do about it,... until we come into contact with Jesus. Jesus can heal the hurt, the wounds, the secret stuff that you've told no one about, and the embarrassing stuff, you hope no one ever finds out about. Oh, How I can now look back at my life, and think:"What in the world was I thinking?!"....but that's just it...I was Not!!...I was in a cloud, living in a web of disgust and shame, designed for me, targeted by the devil, because he knew my future, as does he know yours!
If you are reading this, it's not by happen chance, young lady/woman...God wants you to know that he is able, and willing to heal and restore what the devil has kept you bound with for far too long1...It's time to break-out of the web of deceit and lies, and start living a whole, happy life. Jesus said: I came that you may have life and more abundantly(John10:10). in this same verse, he said:"The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy", and that's exactly what he is doing to you: through the abuse, the molestation, the rape......
This is what's wrong with you!.....>>>>But I declare to you today....Jesus can make it RIGHT!
Through his saving grace, he can heal and restore you to the you he intended you to be from the beginning. Before all of the stuff that was done to you, even early on in your life, the things you've repressed and tried soooo hard to forget...yes, girl, he's waiting to heal you!

You don't have to look hard or study long to see the effects of a girl gone wrong...her life and lifestyle will reflect it, through promiscuity, drugs, alcohol, violence, depression,...the signs are there, and I can tell you(because I had all of these)...that Girl, what's wrong with you, is you haven't come into contact with a risen savior...when you get to know him like I know him, you will never be the same, Behold!..all things will become new...the same people that are shaking their heads at you now, will be shaking your hand later!.....

Want to be Free?......Ready to start this NEW LIFE?....contact me, I'm here for you, I understand, no judgments here: I have been there and done that, and I know...believe me...I know...

go to the web page for more contact info, and for upcoming seminars and classes: www.scrministries.com

Self Esteem is the Key to your Happiness and Well-being

Often times I come into contact with women who find themselves in the most dissatisfying situation: UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS, SINGLE PARENTING, DEAD-END JOBS, NO-JOB SKILLS, NO EDUCATION, ETC.,

There are usually many issues that have led to these situations and circumstances, but one in particular that i am seeing more and more in my line of work (ministry) and that is: LOW SELF-ESTEEM

Self Esteem is the Key to your Happiness and Well-being

• why it is important

  "I'm trying to break free from the miseries of low self esteem, and this web site is a huge confidence, and will serve as an aid in my quest to claim back what's rightfully mine: my life" Amber

• how to increase your esteem and self confidence
• books you can read about self esteem
• what other information this website contains which you may find interesting
  

Building esteem is a first step towards your happiness and a better life. If you have low confidence or low self esteem you will find it impossible to be the person you could be and your happiness will be limited.

Self esteem increases your confidence. If you have confidence you will respect yourself and then you can respect others, improve your relationships and become happier....this is not a selfish goal as you will contribute more and share yourself with the world and those around you.

Low esteem causes depression, unhappiness, insecurity and low confidence. Other's desires may take preference over yours. Inner criticism, that nagging voice of disapproval inside you, causes you to stumble at every challenge and challenges seem impossible.

How to improve your esteem and confidence

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Want to increase your self confidence at work, in your daily life and improve your relationships?

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1. Face your fears - challenges seem scary but your fears are usually exaggerated. Facing your fears increases your confidence and boosts your esteem.

2. Forget your failures - learn from them. Avoid making the same mistakes again but don't limit yourself by assuming you failed before so you can't succeed this time. Try again, you're wiser and stronger. Don't be trapped in the past!

3. Know what you want and ask for it. Learn about being assertive - you deserve your dreams to come true!

4. Reward yourself when you succeed. No-one else will! Isn't everything easier when you take time to help yourself? Make a list of your successes and focus on the positive.

5. Talk - We often make assumptions about a situation or person which are not true. Your attitude and behavior can be negatively affected so if you have any doubt or question ask and don't assume you know why or how. There is much more about this point and about many of the others in a wonderful book I have read recently. I personally recommend you to read it too as you're going to get a lot out of it. It's called The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz,

6. Don't be defeated! Try something else. You are not going to be defeated by one failed attempt are you? Doesn't everyone fail before they succeed? All you need is a different approach. Good luck! I wish you happiness and success!

Additional Resources:
Karl Perera
www.more-selfesteem.com/self_esteem.htm

In 2010...Be Happy and Let God Work It Out

As a child growing up, whenever I was worried about something, my mother use to always say, “Girl, don’t worry about it. Just let go and let God.”

As a kid, I didn’t really understand what she meant. Let go and let God do what? Let God worry about it? Naw, I couldn’t do that. I couldn’t trust that He would worry about it as much as I would. I knew He had tons of other people that he had to worry about too, so I figured He wouldn’t give my “worry” the amount of attention that it needed.

So, I continued to worry.

How could you just “let it go” as Mom suggested?

If it was something I had to worry about, I had to worry about it, right?

I mean, if I had a really important test, I had to worry about whether or not I was going to pass—especially since I didn’t spend enough time studying.

As I grew older, there were other things to worry about, but still, I felt I had to worry about them for myself because God wouldn’t give it the appropriate attention that I would—worrying.

I worried about whether or not that boy would really like me for who I am; I worried about whether I would have the money to hang out this weekend; I worried if I had enough to cover my car note if I bought those shoes that I simply HAD to have. I worried about whether or not I would be able to hold my tongue and not cuss my boss out when she started to get on my nerve; I worried about whether or not my hair would stay tight the entire day.

But no matter what I worried about I always would hear my mother, in the back of my mind, saying, “Don’t worry. Let go and let God.”

The other day I was on the phone with my mother and she was worried about not hearing from my brother. I have a brother that is sort of “out there” and he is the source of a lot of worrying for my parents.

But as she was telling me how she doesn’t understand why he won’t return her calls and why he doesn’t stop by to see her and how worried she is that he isn’t eating properly and worried that he might be in the streets, I heard her words come out of my mouth, back to her ears. “Mommy, don’t worry. Let go and let God.”

She laughed and said, “Yeah, you are right. There is no need to worry. I’m praying. I’m praying every day. As of right now, I’m turning it over to God. He’ll take care of him.”

Then it clicked.

There is never any reason to worry about anything. Worry does nothing but cause anxiety.

If there is a problem that you are worried about STOP worrying. Just say a little prayer and let go of the problem and let God work it out. Then, trust, with all your heart that God will solve the problem, or bring the answer to you, or make the situation go away.

Whatever you are worried about becomes bigger the more you worry about it.

From this moment on, make the conscious decision that you will not worry ever again. Just let go and let God. Trust and everything will turn out right.

Dawn Fields is a motivational speaker, author and life coach who teaches how to discover God's purpose for your life and incorporate it into a lucrative career. Visit the web site at http://www.dawnfields.com and be sure to sign up for Your Life's Purpose newsletter by sending a blank email to yourlifespurpose-subscribe@topica.comrnwith SUBSCRIBE in the subject line. Tune in to her radio broadcast each Thursday at 9 p.m EST by visiting [http://www.dawnfields.com/radioshow.htm]

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Your Purpose

Where do you start if you want to discover Gods purpose for your life? How do you know if you're on the right path or if you've somehow fallen into a ditch? (I've often wondered this very thing over the years.)
There are some things you can do to get started but the real trick is to let God show you His plan, one step at at time. You take a step and God takes a step.

There is one caution however.... you can't simply make a bunch of plans and expect God to bless them when you pray. It is a lot more important for you to PRAY first, and then plan. God doesn't feel compelled to participate in anything that wasn't His idea. When you discover Gods purpose for your life, rest assured, you will know you heard from Him.

If I were to write a book on this subject it would be called, "Discover Gods Purpose for your Life in 2 Easy Steps."

Step 1: First, follow God's overall purpose for your life. If you try to move to step 2 without acknowledging God's ground rules, you'll never get to step 2. God's overall purpose for you means He wants you to establish and maintain Christian priorities.

Some of these include putting God first, confessing any unconfessed sins, forgiving anyone that's hurt you, and finding ways to be a blessing to someone else.

Step 2: After you feel like you have step 1 under control, then look at your dreams. They were all given to you by God, so take a step to see what happens. You'll know if you're on the right path because doors will open, and things will come together if it's in God's timing and balance.

On the other hand, as you discover Gods purpose for your life, you'll know very quickly if it's not His plan. You'll struggle trying to make things happen and you'll run into brick walls every time you make a move.

The bottom line is that God isn't going to move until you do. If you never step out, God never has a chance to work.

Any kind of life change can be tough, but when you use the tools God has already given you, making those changes can be easier than you think, especially because they will line up with God's plan for you.

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Here are some scriptures from the amplified Bible that may help you discover Gods purpose for your life:

John 5:30: I am able to do nothing from Myself (independently, of my own accord-but only as I am taught by God and as I get His orders). Even as I hear, I judge (I decide as I am bidden to decide. As the voice comes to me, so I give a decision), and my judgement is right, (just, righteous), because I do not seek or consult my own will, (I have no desire to do what is pleasing to myself, my own aim, my ownpurpose), but only the will and pleasure of the Father who sent me.

Lamentations 3:25-26: The Lord is good to those who wait hopefully and expectantly for Him, to those who seek Him, (inquire of and for Him, and require Him by right of necessity and on the authority of God's word.)

It is good that one should hope in and wait quietly the salvation (the safety and ease) of the Lord.

Matthew 7:7-8: Keep on asking and it will be given you; keep on seeking and you will find; keep on knocking (reverently) and the door will be opened to you.

For everyone who keeps on asking receives; and he who keeps on seeking finds; and to him who keeps on knocking, the door will be opened

Here is a "Print and Pray" prayer as you discover Gods purpose for your life:

God,

You can see me struggling to find my way. I'm coming before You because You are the God of the Universe and worthy of my every praise. I want to discover Your purpose for my life. I know there's more for me out there, and I know You have an awesome plan for me. I want to commit to this process God, but I'm afraid of where it might lead. God, what if what You want for me isn't what I want for my life?

I'm trusting that You'll help me with this God. I know You want me to be happy more than I do. Show me, step by step God, so I can grasp it all. And mostly, God, if what I want isn't what You want, then change my mind.

Thank You Lord, for being here to help me. Thank You for caring enough about me to show me what to do next.

I ask all things in Jesus' name.

AMEN!

Find Your Purpose....The World Is Waiting....

Lady V


Additional Resources:
Karen Wolff
Christian Books For Women

Finding Inner Peace

. .. . . . . . . . . Put on some soothing music. Keep it soft and gentle. Take a few deep breaths, holding each one for a few seconds and then slowly exhaling. Relax. Feel the chair you're sitting on, your feet on the floor. Smell the scents in the room. Imagine Jesus coming toward you with a smile on his face. Tell him how you are feeling right now …sad, heartbroken , hurt, lost, confused, ashamed, trapped, oppressed, depressed, lonely, anxious, unfocused ( a biggie in today's society)....(and a true robber of peace ), abandoned, tormented, hopeless.. . Tell him exactly what things are like for you today even if your pain is deep. Open and pour out your heart to him. Feel his presence very close to you. Let his love fill your heart and soul. Thank him in advance for rescuing you out of your darkness, because that is what’s going to happen! He cares. HE...is your defense. Let go & let GOD work it all out for you.

Additional Resources:
Broken Women Outreach

Talitha Cumi......."Damsel Arise"

The Bible tells of a ruler in the synagogue, who's daughter was believed to be dead, they inquired of Jesus to come unto her, to save her, for her sickness appeared to be to the point of death. Before Jesus could get there, word came that she was dead, and to trouble Jesus no more with the matter. Jesus, hearing this, told the ruler,"Be not afraid...Only Believe"

I come into contact with many women who feel that their situation is to death. The hopelessness and despair that they feel, makes it hard for them to even breath, in cases like these, I am reminded of this very case in the Bible, how Jesus handled it, and the girl's state after her encounter with Jesus.

Jesus put the naysayers out of the room, and commenced to speak a word that gave life to that dead situation: "TALITHA CUMI"

Jesus told her to ARISE!!
And we must do the same.....Whether its our own messy situation, or someone else's:

YOU HAVE THE POWER TO SPEAK, NOT "A" WORD, BUT "THE" WORD over that dead situation.

Arise damsel, In JESUS name!!

Lady V